My Experience: Using Misoprostol for Miscarriage

My Experience with using Misoprostol for Miscarriage

What to expect when having a miscarriage

So this is not your typical Serendipity and Spice post…there is nothing serendipitious about the information I am about to share but I am sharing with you today something that we don’t like to talk about….the loss of a pregnancy.

As some of you have undoubtably realized…I’ve been off the last few weeks.  I haven’t been my typical self, I haven’t been very active– I had scheduled posts and just let them autopost.  That is because I’ve been pregnant for the last 2 months and have had intense morning sickness that has lasted all day long since I was 3 weeks along.  Unfortunately, at our 8 week appointment we found out that our baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks 5 days and we no longer had a viable pregnancy.  While going through the loss this last week I realized there are not many stories out there so I feel the need to share mine so that it will hopefully help another woman going through this sad time.

I am warning you now the following post is graphic and not intended for my typical readers.  I have written this post for other women who are at a loss, their heart is breaking, and they have to make one of the hardest decisions of their life.  This post is going to walk through every step of my experience using Cytotec / Misoprostol for miscarriage in hopes that it will help other women searching the internet for stories regarding this issue.

experience using misoprostol for miscarriage

So welcome to those women who are an emotional wreck right now– I’m here for you, you are not alone, there’s NOTHING you could have done to change the predicament you are in, and you will be okay!  I found that reading other peoples stories really helped me feel better and not as alone….I mean I do have Hubs and he’s great but he just doesn’t get it–it’s not his fault it’s just that he can never be able to experience a miscarriage the same way women do and that’s ok…I wouldn’t wish this experience on anyone and I’m truly sorry you are here– but I hope you find some comfort in reading about my experience!

Let me start off by telling you a little bit about me and about my journey through this process:

I’m Melissa- this is not my first miscarriage and this is not my first time using Cytotec (Misoprostol) for miscarriage.  About 4 years ago I became pregnant for the first time and my husband and I were elated and told everyone…well at 7 weeks we lost the baby and I had to take Misoprostol/Cytotec (they’re considered one in the same) to help the miscarriage along.

I can tell you from experience that the memory of this will fade, you won’t remember the pain, and this day will turn into a blurry haze in your memory.  I will however warn you that one part of this process will be burned into your memory forever and that’s ok– the feeling of passing the sac is a feeling I will never forget and that’s ok…it wasn’t physically painful but it is emotional and that’s what makes us human.  A little over a year later I became pregnant again, this time we waited until after the first trimester to tell everyone and now we have a healthy little boy…he is the light of my life…if you start reading my blog you will learn to know him as Little Man.  So life will get better– and this will become a distant memory.

Right now I have been pregnant for 9 weeks and 1 day but the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks 5 days.  It started off as a normal pregnancy– sore breasts, constant nausea, food aversions, intense sense of smell, you name the symptom I had it.  Then all of a sudden last Tuesday all of the symptoms started to subside.  I didn’t think too much about it because I have several pregnant friends who aren’t experiencing any symptoms.  Hubs and I had sex Thursday night and Friday morning I was spotting bright red.  Again I brushed it off as an effect from having sex but I called the doctor anyway because of the blood being bright red.  The doctor had me come in immediately for an ultrasound and that’s when we learned there was no heartbeat and the baby had stopped growing over a week ago.  My blood tests showed that my hCG levels were at the right level but my progesterone was extremely low…since this is what happened with my last miscarriage we at least know now what to watch for in the future.  At that point I was given a choice of waiting to see if I miscarried naturally over the weekend, taking Cytotec/Misoprostol, or having a D&C done….since I’m terrified of surgery I opted to wait out the weekend and if that didn’t work then go for the Cytotec/Misoprostol.  Well, my body didn’t pass anything over the weekend and we went back to the doctor yesterday.  Since everything looked just like the week before my doctor gave me a prescription for Misoprostol.

So now that you know a little about me and a little about my history I’m going to share with you the timeline of today.  I hope this eases your mind with what to expect.  Like I said, I found reading other people’s stories very helpful and I’ll be sharing links to those at the end of this post.

Saturday- 11:00 am– I’m shaking I’m so anxious! I have a friend who just went through this last week so we’re texting about her experience and talking about the future when we’ll be complaining about swollen feet with our big ole pregnant bellies.  Thinking, dreaming, and talking about the future is helping me keep my spirits up and not dwell on the present. I grab my pills and go to the kitchen to get a glass of water– determined to get on with the healing process!  I’m referring to this process from now on as the healing process because that is what it is and it makes me feel better to know that I’m in the middle of a healing process instead of the middle of a miscarriage…you must find ways to keep yourself positive and know that everything happens for a reason.  My baby passed away over 2 weeks ago and I have come to terms with that– now it’s time to help my body heal so we can try again in a few months.  I take 2 pills of Misoprostol 200 MCG orally and one percocet for pain — I figure the percocet will help calm my nerves.

I’ve read about women taking the Misoprostol vaginally but my doctor prescribed it orally– so you can always talk with your doctor about the best option for you.  I heard that taking it vaginally helps keep upset stomach and nausea away but I’m not sure…I took it orally last time and my friend took it orally last week so I guess it depends on which way your doctor thinks is better.

12:00pm– I feel some mild cramping so I go to the bathroom to see if anything has started.  I’m lightly spotting and not so jittery so the percocet has kicked in– I know percocet is not meant for anxiety but it’s helping– in hindsight I probably should have asked the doctor to prescribe me some anxiety medication but we’re here now and it’s a Saturday so the percocet is working.

1:00pm– The cramps are getting stronger, I’m feeling a bit lightheaded (I’m guessing it’s from the percocet), and I’m still just lightly bleeding.

3:00pm– Hubs went and picked up Chick-fil-A for lunch…I was starving but only able to eat half.  My cramps are increasing in intensity but so far there’s not much else to report…light spotting and that’s it.  I am going to get the heating pad to help with the cramps though…I have another hour until my next dose of Misoprostol and Percocet…I can tell the Percocet is wearing off!

4:00pm– Taking the second dose.  My cramps have increased and are slightly greater than my regular full flow period cramps…but no flow yet still just spotting…in fact I’m spotting less than I was earlier.  Last time I only had to take one dose and everything was over in a few hours…this is dragging out all day….argh my stubborn body!  I have a deep feeling that this second dose is going to get things going quickly….I’m getting nervous about the pain that’s on the way.

6:00pm– The cramping has started to become more intense but nothing that I can’t handle with some deep breathing.  I just passed a few clots and period like bleeding has begun…I’m hoping this is the beginning…I’m so tired.

10:00pm– Taking the 3rd dose…not even bothering taking a percocet because there’s no pain…I really thought everything would be over by now!  My friend had everything over in 12 hours…I was hoping for the same…but each body is different so every experience will be different.  I’m going to try sleeping…I’m exhausted and the cramps aren’t as bad as they were earlier.

4:00am- Well, I’ve been sleeping– other than passing a clot every few hours and light period like bleeding not much else is happening.  I’m taking my 4th and final dose and going back to bed.

Sunday- 10:00am– At least now I feel well rested and STARVING!!  But nothing has happened.  

Monday 8am– Still nothing except light bleeding and mild cramps.  I’m calling the doctor to see if anything else can be prescribed to help move things along….I really don’t want to have a D&C and don’t want to be anxiously waiting over the next few days for something to happen.

Monday 3:45pm– My mom came into town so since nothing has happened we’ve been out running errands all day.  We took Little Man to a playdate and walked around the mall and Target to see if maybe walking around will get things in motion.  The doctor called back and wants to see me for an ultrasound at 2:30 tomorrow….if nothing has passed (which I know it hasn’t) then we’re going to have to do a D&C.

Tuesday 2:30pm– Still the same….light bleeding, mild cramps, freaking out that I’m going to have to have a D&C.  The doctor takes me back for an ultrasound and there’s nothing there.  He says that there’s only a small bit of tissue showing up on the monitor and I must have passed everything without realizing it.  I’m elated, ecstatic, and completely baffled….I mean I’ve been through this before and know what to watch for….but I’m happy it’s done and I’m on the road to healing!

Tuesday 5:15pm– Hubs and I are in the process of building a house so we go out to see the progress.  There’s no plumbing in yet– just the frame of the house and no bathrooms anywhere near by and I feel it.  This weird sensation like a bubble pushing out of my vagina and I instantly know what it is.  Hubs and I drive home and I run up to the bathroom to confirm my suspicions…. I passed the sac.  It was different than before because everything was completely intact….I guess the probing from the ultrasound was the little push my body needed to finish the process.  I have no idea why the sac didn’t show up on the ultrasound but I’m taking it as my own little miracle from God.

Wednesday 8am: I feel great.  I’m still bleeding moderately and passing a few clots…but the cramping is gone and I feel like my body is fully healed.

I try not to look at this miscarriage as the death of my baby but I look at it as bad timing.  I 100% whole heartedly believe that my first miscarriage was Little Man and it just wasn’t time for him to join us– maybe he was sick or something  else was wrong.  But now he’s here with us….just a little later than initially expected.  I believe with all my heart that this baby is my daughter but she just isn’t ready to join us yet and she will be born in the future!

 Other posts about using misoprostol for miscarriage– these really helped calm me during the process this weekend:

Hope and a Future: My Experience with a Cytotec Miscarriage

Studio Blonde: Misoprostol Miscarriage- My Story

First Baby Journey: Misoprostol- Bleeding, Cramping, and What to Expect

Love Lavished: My Experience with Cytotec

The Vegan in Me: A Misoprostol Miscarriage

We Can Do Hard Things: My Experience with Cytotec

Please leave a comment even if it’s anonymous so I can send my thoughts and prayers your way!  Remember, you are not alone and there is nothing you could have done differently.  You are a strong beautiful woman and life will be better soon. 

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  1. Brooke says

    Thank you for posting this and sharing your experiences! We are going through our second miscarriage in six months. The first ended around 9 weeks when I started spotting and we were told our baby no longer had a heartbeat. The second when we went for our 8 week ultrasound last week and were only measuring around 6 weeks. We just went back for a check up this week and were even smaller. We are opting for the more natural way out this time. The D&C last time was very emotionally taxing for me and took me a long time to recover from. We are starting the medication tonight (my doctor is of the other variety) and I’ve been ready to move on physically but emotionally frustrated and mentally frightened. This helped ease my anxiety and give me a little hope for the future. My progesterone was low as well and we are hoping that helps in the future. Enjoy your beautiful little Man and I hope your daughter finds you very soon!

  2. Katelynn says

    Hello everyone. As I write this I am going through my 4th miscarriage. I was pregnant about 5 years ago and miscarrried and had a D/C about 4 months later we were pregnant again and miscarried and had another D/C. After that one I had another surgery and they found out I had a septum in my uterus that was 3/4 of my uterus and you could only get to the Fallopian tubes, that was why my babies were passing away at about 6-8 weeks each time. We heard a heartbeat for both if these. Earlier this year we were pregnant again, finally after trying for 4 years! So excited! But again we miscarried. I had another D/C which they ended up not getting all the tissue and subsequently had to have another one 6 days later. Then in August I had another surgery to take cysts out and to reduce the previous septum that wasn’t taken all the way out. Well the week after Halloween this year we found out we were expecting again. This time I was not very ecstatic, not because I
    didn’t want a baby but because we were suppose to wait 3 months
    after my surgery in August. And because Honestly I was physically and emotionally drained. 7 surgeries just related to my uterus alone, no babies that were here with us… This was hard. And again in ended in a blighted ovum after I went home from SLC to visit family in WI and had personally told my parents that we were expecting… the day after we got home from our trip we had an U/S and I bawled my head off. This time I opted for the pills. I told my first dose at 10pm on Tuesday night and for an hour I had the worst pain, excruciating. I had diarrhea and I was throwing up and chills… passed two smalls clots. The pain subsided quickly and I had light cramps and bleeding the rest of the day. I was told to take a second dose on Thursday night after thanksgiving and at 8:20 I did, -about an hour ago…
    4 babies I have passed… no babies to hold.
    I’m so over this shit.

    • Donna says

      Aww Katelynn. My heart aches for you. I saw my doctor the morning of Thanksgiving and he told me that things weren’t looking well on the u/s and that I should expect to miscarry soon. He also prescribed me Cytotec to get the process going and I must say I will never forget this Thanksgiving.

  3. Danyelle Williams says

    I took my first dose of misotropol las nite and da bleeding is very heavy for me im going to da bathroom 4 to 5 times and wearing 4 pads but i also have a blood condition
    I wanna call da Dr cause da blood is pouring out when i get to da bathroom
    Da cramping is so bad

  4. Anon says

    I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your personal story. I had a missed miscarriage and was scared about taking the medication this weekend, but my experience ended up being much like yours. It is a horrible thing to go through, and having an idea of what to expect was really helpful for me emotionally and physically. Thank you.

  5. Anonymous says

    You don’t know how comforting it was to find your post. I am literally in the middle of the healing process. I took Misoprostol through vagina 12 hours ago. I was terrified and read stories online about the unbearable pain and even stories of it not working. Like you, I didn’t want D&C because I was scared of something going wrong. This is so hard for me and my husband, we really wanted this baby. 20 minutes ago I woke up feeling clots pass so I get up to go to the bathroom to freshen up. As I’m changing, I looked down and see the sac on my pad. I was literally bawling on the toilet. Reality set in that this part is over. I’m not pregnant. I’m heartbroken. I’m not angry, and am trying to tell myself that things happen for a reason, time wasn’t right for us right now. Now that this part of the process is done, we can look forward to trying again. I keep telling myself that. But it’s still really hard. Anyways, thank you again for your post.

  6. Renee says

    Melissa, I can’t tell you how helpful this is to read.

    I went in yesterday for my 12 week appointment. My Dr tried the Doppler and couldn’t find the heartbeat. Instead of trying linger she brought me back for an U/S. Apparently the regular U/S they have there had to go in for service so they had a new one there that they had to figure out how it worked. It actually helped the panic feelings I was feeling and had me feeling distracted.

    I went downstairs and had my U/S to confirm that the baby had passed at 10 weeks 2 days. Went back upstairs and waited for my Dr to get the report. Thankfully it only took 40 minutes. My Dr went through my options of miscarrying. I could wait for it to naturally happen, take pills, or D&C. I told her I would call her tomorrow.

    I called this morning after reading this and opted for the Misopostal. I haven’t had any spotting or cramping and I don’t know how long my body will take to recognize that I lost the baby. I absolutely do not want to to a D&C in case the procedure caused any scarring.

    I want to Thank You for writing about your experience. I know that each woman will go through their own experience using the pill, but it’s always nice to know what can be expected and to hear others experience.

    • says

      I am so terribly sorry for your loss! I’m glad though that you were able to go home and research your options and that this post helped you make a decision that’s right for you. I know it’s so tough going through this– but just remember– you’re not alone! Sending you HUGS!!!

  7. Christina says

    I’m going through this process tomorrow and I am heartbroken and terrified. Your post has helped take some of the edge off. It’s an odd thing to be thankful for, but our baby never had a heartbeat so it feels much more like I never really had hope. I have a 2 year old daughter and we thought we’d never have her, so I’m just trying to be thankful.

    Did time help you with being scared for trying for #2? I’m afraid I’ll be too scared to overcome this 🙁

    • Diana says

      I had this experience last August 2015. I got pregnant again January 2016 and am at 29 weeks. So far everything is going well. Keep your head up! And take your time. My advice is not to rush into having a baby after the loss. It’s been a struggle although I’ve been blessed with a child. I still think of my unborn child so time is everything. Heal. Wait the recommended time as well so that your chances of another event like this happening go down. Check your fertility as well. I went in and found out I had PCOS. But again I am more than halfway now. Just have faith and patience. It will come when you least expect it. My condolences will never be enough but I send prayers your way !

  8. Jamie says

    Hi Melissa, I was searching the internet about misoprostol because I’m very concerned about taking ANY medication. You hear stories about Big Pharma, and I’m just too careful about it. Anyways, I came across your blog. I had miscarried quickly back on May 31. I was 15 weeks 4 days, and my baby was sized at 10 weeks. I do home births, so being just that I was seeing a MW, we really had no clue…being she only uses a doppler to find the heart beat…until my body started the procedure of miscarriage naturally. I am heartbroken, but am slowly healing from all this and I can not wait to try again. It is now 6 weeks that I am still bleeding and passing small clots. Every time I use the bathroom, I’m reminded of what has happened, and I NEED to move one. My MW sent me to a GYN for a sono to see what was left in the womb. The GYN told me that it’s just taking a long time. 6 weeks!!! Really?!? So he prescribed me misoprostol, vaginally. I’m nervous about it, but I had passed everything 6 weeks back in the ER, so I don’t know if I will experience the physical pain others are experiencing being that they haven’t completed the process of miscarriage. Your thoughts??? Soooo, I had picked up the misoproatol two days ago and still have not used it. I need to know for certain it’s okay…Nuff’ said, your post has been helpful to me. I was also concerned that using the drug, I was scared it could do more harm than good by manipulating my body the way it does to speed up the process, afterwards. Like, cause the risk of not having a healthy pregnancy next time as well. That’s probably silly, but you are proof that isn’t true, being you now have your sweet Little Man. Thank you for sharing. You give me hope!! I have three beautiful littles, but in my heart, I still know there’s suppose to be one more.

    • says

      I’m so sorry for your loss Jamie! Don’t worry about taking the Mistoprostol and it affecting other pregnancies. It exits your system very quickly and just lasts long enough to do what it needs to do. I’ve used it twice for 2 separate miscarriages and got pregnant again just a few months later with very healthy pregnancies. Both of my children are completely fine…I truly believe that a miscarriage is just the baby waiting for a healthy body. I’m sure that if you feel like your family isn’t quite complete then it’s not and you will get your next bundle of joy when the time is right. Sending you hugs!

  9. Mm says

    I am so glad that your miscarriage went smoother than mine. I tried reading numerous reports to ease my nervousness but nothing helped. On June 13th I found out I was a month and 1 week pregnant, they brought me in for blood work and everything looked fine. I had complained numerous times about horrible stomach pains and they just said its normal pushing around in my body. I went in for my next blood test and my HCG level dropped by 4,321 and I was in shock and devastated being informed it might be a miscarriage. They brought me in a week later to do another blood test and my HCG rose up 4021 which gave me so much hope. That night I started my period which was 2x heavier than usual this just shot my hopes down. They told me be prepared for the good news but as well the worst of news. I cried the first couple of night because it was something nerve wrecking to go through. When I was 6 weeks and 5 days they called me in for an ultra sound when they used the monitor they found no heart beat I sat in the office and the second I looked up the doctor says “marina first let me start off by saying I don’t have good news” as much as I wanted to drop to my knees and cry I held it back hoping for a little good news. She began explaining my HCG level was still rising but not enough they found a gestational sac at 5 weeks and 5 days. She said the heartbeat stopped about a week ago and I was no longer pregnant. She then gave me the option of how to speed up the process of the miscarriage in which I completely denied bcus it is even more hurtful to be aware when and how this will all just soon pour out. I felt like I was choosing to abort my baby by taking these pills. After she explained a little I felt okay with taking them. This is an experience I unfortunately feel I won’t forget..

    I was prescribed norco and ibuprofen I took a norco 30mins before the cytotoxic and then took the coyotes after that 30 mins which was 4 pills I inserted vaginally.

    I laid down with my hips pointed up on a pillow soon I began getting light cramps and bleeding a little heavier.

    I soon began to feel heavy cramps they were cramps I couldn’t bare without crying and breathing deep if I could explain birth without going thru it I would say it was this
    They were spaced out they’d last about 2/3 minutes then stop then in 4/5 minutes start off slowly and get stronger. This lasted from 4 till about 945-10pm.
    I didn’t pass any blood clots I just bled really heavy. I took a ibuprofen bcus the 2 norcos didn’t help at all and in 30 mins my pain was a little worse than regular period cramps so I felt relieved. I had my boufriend with me the whole time so his support helped so much if suggest someone to be with you if you go through this.
    By the time it hit 1030/1100pm I felt nothing just bled heavy. I went to sleep and woke the next morning early to shower when I used the restroom before I was peeing and felt the need to push as j pushed I felt something slimy stuck I looked down and it looked like a clear mucus sac I had to finish by pulling it out which felt very spongey I figured it was the gestational sac. By this point I felt relieved I thought gees it’s over my doctor called to check on me and I explained and she said to still take the next four dosage which would be today I took them about an hour ago and haven’t felt pain thanks to the ibuprofen. I’m currently going through the second day so can’t really give detail but will update when I can..

    I do however want to add to anyone going through this it’s okay to feel like your not in the right place or to just break down and cry at any moment because this is something that is emotionally and physically hard to deal with. I wish the best to everyone on their next adventure of trying to conceive. I can’t wait to be able to try again. May we all be blessed with the opportunity of have 5 tiny fingers wrap around our finger.

  10. Melissa Taylor says

    Thank you so much for sharing your personal experience. I have two healthy children so when we went to get our ultrasound at 10 weeks and got the news that our baby had no heartbeat it was numbing and hard to understand. After 3 days I decided I needed to move things along so I could be present for my family and had taken the time to accept that the future I had envisioned had changed. I’m taking the pills today. I don’t care about the pain physically. However, I am concerned about passing our baby and I can’t mentally accept flushing my little baby. What do people do with their baby’s after they pass them? I don’t see much about this.

    • says

      I’m so sorry for your loss! Unfortunately I don’t have a good answer for you once you do pass the baby. I couldn’t bare to look so I just disconnected myself from the situation as I think most people do. Sending you hugs!!!

  11. Jessica Jilg says

    I’m sorry that you had to go through this but thank you for sharing your story. This is my second miscarriage but first time having to use the medication and it can be overwhelming. Just knowing there are others out there like me is a huge comfort. Thank you again.

  12. Ariel says

    Im really scared this is my 4th lost baby 1st missed miscarriage and im afraid because in my head its like abortion to me my mother said only take the misoprostol if ive given up hopeit was alive. In my heart my baby is 50-50 but my doctor is so sure shes gone. Im writing this as i take my first dose in secret. I hope my husband and god can forgive me but knowing im carrying around my dead baby girl inside me is killing me. I was 10 wks when i went for my first u/s to find out she was only 8wks no heartbeat.

    • says

      I’m so sorry for your loss. And there’s absolutely no reason for you to feel guilty! I believe this is just God’s way of making sure that your baby is born in a healthy body. Sending you hugs!!!

  13. Poppys says

    Thank you for the post. I have been trying to make a decision on taking the medication or D&C. My situation is very similar to yours. This is my third miscarriage, I had a D&C with the first (missed miscarriage) and the second I miscarried naturally. I just want it to be over with already. My heart goes out to you and any other woman that has had to go through this. Unless you have gone through it, you can’t understand the emotional, mental, and physical turmoil that a miscarriage causes.

  14. Cris says

    I want to thank you for posting this. I am about to go through the same thing. It helps to know I am not alone.

  15. Sara says

    So I was 10 weeks yesterday. However, I have only measures 6 weeks at all three ultrasounds I’ve had. Plus there has never been any sign of cardiac activity in my baby. My doctor gave me an RX for cyotec and I took it this morning at 9:40. I have had cramping which increased in severity at 1:30 pm. My doctor told me I could take 800 mg of ibuprofen for pain. The ibuprofen did take the edge off for a little while. However, I have yet to bleed or spot. I guess I will have to do the second 4 pill vaginal dose tomorrow. Really praying this works and I do not have to endure a D&C. Is there anything else I can do to speed this along? Walk? I’m 39 and this is my first pregnancy. Thank you so much for posting your story.

    • says

      Hi Sara- I’m so terribly sorry for your loss. Unfortunately I don’t know of any ways to speed it along…it seems to be different for everyone. I’m so sorry—send you hugs!!

  16. Mary says

    Thank you for sharing your story. Last Monday, I was told that there was no heartbeat. I would have been 9 weeks but the baby stayed at 6 weeks. I thought I had come to the realization that I would miscarry as I had gone to the ER prior for extreme vomitting and had an ultrasound and was informed that the baby’s heartbeat was extremely low and will miscarry. The past 3 weeks have been an emotional roller coaster. Although the last three US showed signs of an abnormal pregnancy and progression of spontaneous abortion I still had the hope that my baby will beat the odds since I had no bleeding or cramps. So going back to Monday, the doc gave me the same 3 options as everyone here. I decided to wait for the weekend to take misopostrol. I was supposed to take it this Friday, but decided to do it on Sunday night. As I came home tonight determined to take the pill, I was not able to do it. I held the pill in my hand and just started to cry. Thoughts like, “omg your about to end this” and then felt really guilty for not letting take its natural course. However, reading this blog and people’s comments, I feel I’m not alone and makes this decision a little tolerable. I’ve decided to take it tomorrow morning, I hope I can go through it. Once again, thanks everyone for sharing your experiences, it’s very helpful during this difficult time.

    • says

      Oh Mary, I’m so terribly sorry for your loss. You are definitely not alone…we’ve all been there with the guilty feeling of taking that little pill. But I can promise you, there is nothing you could have done to prevent this! I believe that you’ll still have your beautiful baby but he/she just needs to come back in a healthy body. My heart aches for you as I have been right where you are at…I’m sending you hugs !!

  17. Alyssa says

    Thank you for sharing your experience. I inserted 4 miso pills yesterday at 3pm and had some really mild cramps in the evening. I had one large gush and passed a large-ish clot at 4am but basically zero since then. Inserted second set of pills at 11am today and nothing, no cramps, barely a drop of blood. So nervous that it’s not going to work. I will try to stay positive and hope it just takes a little longer like yours did. Really don’t want to have to get a D&C.

  18. Mimi says

    Thank you for this post. I lost muy baby at week 6; last ultrasoun there were not heart beats. I have to take misoprostol this coming friday. I’ m so cared, but reading you helped me to know what to expect. Still hurts…. but it what it is… hope healing process don’t take too long.

    • says

      I am so terribly sorry for your loss! I’m glad that this post has helped you– there’s nothing to be scared about– the process isn’t too terrible it’s the heartbreak that’s tough. Sending you hugs this weekend!!

  19. Lacee says

    Thank you for this post. It has helped me get through today. I have been so scared and this eased my mind, and allowed me the courage to take the Cytotec. So far it hasn’t been all that bad.

  20. KC says

    Hi there. I am currently going through a Misoprostol induced miscarriage and wanted to share my experience. First of all, I’d like to thank you along with all of the people who commented on this post as the information was very useful to me and helped me feel more prepared for this. I found out at my first ultra sound at 8 weeks, that there was only a gestational sac and no signs of any baby (no yolk sac, fetal pole, nothing). I was of course devastated as I had been having very strong pregnancy symptoms up until this point (nausea, vomiting, fatigue, extremely sore/tender breasts). After testing my hormone levels and doing 2 follow up ultra sounds, it was confirmed that I had a blighted ovum and it was not viable pregnancy. Last US was done at 10 weeks with sac only measuring 7 weeks at that point. Since I’ve never had surgery or been put under anesthesia, I opted for medication to induce miscarriage since I had no symptoms of miscarryinf and couldn’t bear waiting potentially another 2-3 weeks for it to happen naturally. So here is my experience:

    At 11:30am yesterday, I inserted 4 pills vaginally (800mg). At 3:30pm, I began feeling some light cramping but had no bleeding yet. Finally at 7:30pm, I began bleeding lightly and still had cramping but it was bearable. Over the next few hours, the bleeding picked up a little bit and at around 10pm my cramps began to intensify. At this point, I took one Percocet to ease the pain. Around 11:30pm, the cramps got really really bad. Like others have said, I have never had a period that was even remotely close to this in terms of pain and I definitely think it was more like labor contractions. The pain was so debilitating that I took a 2nd Percocet at 12:30am. In addition to cramping, I was sweating really bad. The contractions started coming closer and closer together, about every 5 mins. from 12:30-2am. At about 2am, I felt a gush and ran to the bathroom. At that point I felt something slide out of me and plop into the toilet. It was roughly the size of a lime and I believe it was the sac. I also had a lot of blood and clotting in my maxi pad at that time. After I passed the sac, the cramping decreased significantly. However, I did continue to bleed pretty heavily and pass some clots for the next 2 hours until about 4am. I also felt a little light headed after passing of the sac probably from the blood loss. I drank some juice and felt better. I think the worst of it is over for me. I had very little cramping today and the bleeding has lighted up a bit too. I have to schedule my next US once all bleeding has stopped to make sure everything has cleared which I hope it has. All in all, I would say my experience has not been too bad so far, and I’m happy I chose this route vs. the surgery assuming everything clears out of my system like it’s supposed to.

      • KC says

        Thank you. It’s nice to know I’m not alone and there are others out there who, unfortunately, have had to go through this terrible experience too. It’s hard to talk to friends who haven’t gone through this as they don’t understand and can be insensitive as someone else mentioned. Reading everyone’s stories definitely helped me cope with it all, so I thank you for creating this forum for women to express and share their feelings with each other.

  21. A says

    What a sad story, but hopefully things are better now. I feel for women who cannot have children, and wish I could switch with them. In my experience, I was probably about 11 weeks, but knew I could not have a child and got misoprostol to take vaginally. The process was smooth but now a few months later i’m having scary irregular periods/ bleeding and wonder if you or any other women who took this medication experienced that….

    • says

      Thanks so much for your comment. Things are much better now and I’m happy to say that I did finally have my daughter and she’s the light of my life along with her brother! My periods went back to normal about 2 months afterwards– I would give your doctor a call and make sure everything is ok and fully healed.

  22. BJ says

    I have been searching the net trying stories of other women who had experience with medically managed miscarriages (term my doctor used) and yours was one of the most helpful especially with direct links to other stories.

    I am currently going through the cytotec regimen but let me start from the beginning of my pregnancy. In December, I found out I was pregnant with my second child (13 years after my first). It came as a total shock as I was not actively ttc and didn’t even think I could as I was told by a ob that I didn’t ovulate regularly and would need assistance to get pregnant. I keep the news to myself until I had it confirmed by blood test and schedule an appointment for dating scan. On Jan 2nd I went to see a OB/GYN for my dating and pregnancy scan. I hadn’t planned to us a OB for this child. I knew immediately that I wanted a natural birthing center birth. But I went to the OB for confirmation. The scan showed a yolk sac, gestational sac and fetal pole. We saw the heartbeat on the monitor but we couldn’t hear it at that time. Dr said it was because it was still to early to pick up on the Doppler but we could see a very strong heart beat. She dated the baby at 6w 2d. After getting confirmation that I was in deed pregnant I immediately set up a tour and consultation with my birthing center of choice. On Jan 7th, I went in for my tour and met both midwives and birth assistant and was in love. The midwife took out her handheld Doppler and ask if I wanted to hear the heart beat since I was 7 weeks by then and we should be able to pick it up. We searched for a while and then we heard it, a very strong heartbeat just like the one I saw at my dating scan. I began to get super excited for this baby. After the consultation and tour was over, I was giving a packet for services and scheduled for my first official appointment for Jan 25th. Those two weeks drug on for felt like an eternity. Unlike most of the stories I’ve read or watched I had no indication that something would possibly go wrong. All symptoms where still present and I was feeling normal. When my first official appointment rolled around I went in and wasn’t nervous at all because I just knew everything would be OK. My Midwife examined me and did the full blood work consistent with the first appointment but something changed when she went to listen to the heartbeat. For some reason the Doppler was completely silent. She said not to worry at first that sometimes the position of the baby could cause us not to find the heartbeat so she continued but after like 15 minutes still nothing. She called for the front desk to call one of the OB/GYNs that worked with their center for emergency. The receptionist let us know that the DR was expecting us and we headed to his office. My midwife was still pretty optimistic. Trying to reassure me that this could be nothing and that using ultrasound is just a precaution. But it was at this moment that I began to feel disheartened. We had been able to find the heartbeat so easily when i was still really early and now almost 10 weeks there was nothing.

    I knew immediately that something was wrong. We got to doctors office which was just literally 5 minutes from the birth center. My midwife signed us in we were escorted straight to the Ultrasound exam room. The Dr came in and my midwife told him that I should be 9w 4d at that point. The doctor who was also optimistic just said lets take a look. He started with a abdominal ultrasound and for like 30 minutes he looked for a heartbeat. He didn’t say much at first but I knew from his facial expression that the heartbeat was gone. He then sent us over to the adjoining hospitals radiology department because they had more advanced ultrasound equipment. There the tech did an abdominal and vaginal ultrasound. She found the baby and said “I don’t see any heart activity”. She then tried to see if there was any blood flow and no color around the baby or the sac showed up. Still trying to be optimistic she then said well, lets just take a listen. And it was at that moment that my heart broke because it was complete silence. I knew that my baby was gone. She didn’t say much after that and told me she would send the results to my doctor.

    The hardest part of the whole examining ordeal was when we returned to the doctor told me that the baby was measuring exactly where it was suppose to be so it happened fairly recent. He said it could have stopped beating with in the last 24 hours. That news killed me because just the day before my baby was still alive. My midwife was mortified and held my hand as the doctor turned off the ultrasound machine. He then told me that I had 3 options wait and let it happen naturally which in my case would take at least 2 weeks because my body hadn’t registered that the baby had died yet. Medical Management (Misoprostol) or D&C. Because he was more a holistic doctor he didn’t see the need for a D&C. He told me that i didn’t have to decide right then because he wanted to test me to see if my HCG levels has started dropping. Scheduling me to come back on Wednesday and than again on Friday. This all happened on Monday. So I took that time to come to terms with what had happened. It has been so tough because I had no signs that this was happening. No bleeding, no cramping, NOTHING. I would have probably felt better if I had signs that this was imminent but to know that my baby was alive on that Sunday and things changed in less than 24 hours killed me.

    On Thursday night I made a remembrance video for my little “Mocha Baby” because I knew that Friday I would have to make a decision. I chose to take the medication to induce the process because I felt I wanted to have some since of control in this process especially since I couldn’t control saving my baby.

    That morning I saw the doctor, signed my consent forms. The doctor gave me my ultrasound radiology report, a ultrasound picture, a informational packet on medically induced miscarriage and a prescription for cytotec and Vicodin. He told me that I would experience some bleeding and cramping and what to look for to know when the baby had passed. He also told me that I would be able to recognize the baby because it was nearly fully formed at almost 10 weeks. He told me if I didn’t have the heart to see it to just let it pass over the toilet. He asked me if i would like to have it tested but I opted out being that this was my first miscarriage. He also told me that it was OK to name it and bury it if I wanted. After I left the doctor I dropped off my prescription to CVS and headed to Starbucks to do some work and take my mind off of what I had to do. After a few hours I started reading miscarriage stories more specifically miscarriage stories using cytotec. I decided that I wanted to be alone even tough everything I read and the doctor told me not to do it alone but I figured if anything went wrong I would keep my phone close to call 911… I also prepped myself and made a good dinner. Pulled out some green tea and my mothers to be tea, took some Iron pills and at 7 pm Friday night I inserted my first 3 pill dose into my vagina as instructed. This was traumatic for me because I know that most people who use this pill do so to willing end pregnancy and This was not my choice. I just told myself that the baby has been dead for almost a week so I wasn’t doing anything wrong. After a few hours spotting started and then the cramping. As the cramping progressed I took a Vicodin and sat in the tub to ease my pain. My bleeding started to pick up as after a hour in the tub my bath water was almost completely red.

    By the time it came for me to take my second 3 pill dose, the pain was mind numbing. I was literally in tears. I was expecting cramping but telling a women that this process would just be like a heavy period is such a under zealous description. I know that every woman’s experience is different but I feel like I am in labor and in a since I guess that I am. I have passed large blood clots and my bleeding has picked up. At midnight I couldn’t bear the pain any longer and the Vicodin just wasn’t helping. I did some many things to try to get through it but the physical pain makes the emotional pain worse in my opinion. At around 3 am a close friend called me just to keep my mind off things and the contractions was calming down. We talked about what I was going through and she sent me a video on meditation to try to help my experience. At 7 am Saturday, I took that last 2 pill dose (in all i had to take 800mg) and another round of pain meds. I was able to sleep for a few hours when I was awaken with intense cramps. I got out of bed to get water and felt a gush that sent me straight to the toilet. I have been bleeding and contracting most of the day. I called the doctors emergency line and he told that the entire process can take up to 48 hours (which he didn’t tell me in the beginning). My cramping and bleeding has stepped up significantly and I just recently had to sit in the tub of warm water for almost two hours for relief. I have been passing clots but nothing that the doctor told me to look for so at this point I’m going into hour #30. Luckily I haven’t felt faint because I’ve been drinking plenty of fluids and taking Iron and mother to be tea to keep myself from being light headed. It had been a messy ordeal and my bleeding has picked up significantly. I know that this is TMI but its starting to pouring out of me. My contractions have started happening longer and closer together (yes I say contracting because I get menstrual cramps and these are far worse than just cramps and being that I have given birth before I can tell you that with my experience these are similar to labor contractions. They aren’t as strong as actual labor but in a since miscarriage is labor its just not the kind of labor that ends with a healthy baby. I’ve had a couple of friends be insensitive without meaning to be to the point where I had to explain to them that miscarriage is just not a bunch of bleeding. I was almost 10 weeks when my baby died and it is fully formed so what will be happening to me is much different than if I was only 4 or 5 weeks.. I told them I will see it. It’s going to pass through me. I think there is a huge misconception about miscarriage and more women should tell their stories so people will stop thinking that a miscarrying woman is just bleeding. No she is essentially giving birth before she ever wanted to.

    I am sorry for the extremely long post. But being that I am still going through my cytotec experience. This has been therapeutic and I hope my story can help someone else reading your experience.Hopefully the increased blood flow and stronger cramps means that I’m close to the process coming to a end. Thank you for the outlet.

    • says

      Thank you so much for sharing your story! My heart breaks for you and I’m so terribly sorry for your loss. You are definitely not alone and I wish more women would talk openly about this experience…so many go through a miscarriage in silence and feel so alone when you don’t have to. Once I wrote this post it was amazing how many women I know that have been through a miscarriage as well– we’re just taught not to talk about it. I know your story will help another grieving mother reading this. Sending you hugs and love!!

  23. Katie says

    tl,dr:: my experience has been completely different and I’m a little jealous, but God is still good!

    I must admit I’m having to check my attitude with each story that I read in thes comments. Absolutely, thank you for sharing, and I wholeheartedly grieve every life that has been lost, specifically in this way.

    But I’m also quite a but jealous, if I’m completely honest. As I type, I am siting in a hot bath with Epsom salt and lavender oil, just trying to get my body to stop hurting… Granted, a large part of this particular physical pain is a result of 7 minutes of lunges and a 15 minute run, two days ago. But let me shed a light from a little bit different perspective, if I may.

    Our first pregnancy was detected on Friday, July 24. We told everyone within earshot when we got to church on Sunday, and even some people before then. But by the following Sunday, August 3, we had to inform everyone that our little Amarys Joy was gone and had already passed out of my body the weekend before.

    Fast forward to October 1, and two pink lines show up again! God is good! Again we told EVERYONE right away, according to our personal convictions on when the beginning of life should be celebrated. This time we got to see our little prince on what we thought was week 7, day 5. He measured 7 weeks on the nose, but he had a beautiful heart beat! He was too little for our doctor to get an accurate heart rate, so we went back in exactly 2 weeks later–Friday November 13. Something in my heart had not been settled ever since our previous appointment, so I was a little anxious. Lo and behold, our Noah Lyle had not grown past when we’d seen him last, and no longer had a beating heart. I’m sure the whole complex could hear the sounds of a momma’s heart being ripped apart at the seams. Before we left, my doctor ordered just about every blood test imaginable and nearly drained me dry (not really, but you get the picture).

    The next day I started to spot, and I had high hopes of a quick and “easy” miscarriage like my first. God very clearly had a different plan. 12 days later, on the eve of Thanksgiving Day, in a public restroom on my way to my mom’s house, I held Noah in my hand for the first and last time. “At least,” I thought, “the worst is over.”

    Fast forward again, to today, January 27, 2016, where it has been 29 hours since I took my 4 Cytotec pills vaginally. Countless blood draws, ultrasounds, and physical exams have indicated that, more than 2 months later, there is still some remnant of fetal tissue in my body that is keeping my HCG from dropping back to 0.

    If this doesn’t work, sometime between Friday and next week, I will have to have a D&C.

    Through all of this, God has used me to encourage other momma’s of unseen babies. He has brought into my corner women whom I may never have met and created a relationship with otherwise. He is growing my patience and trust in Him. God is sovereign, and His plan is good. Part of me just wishes He could have shown me all this in a week, rather than 2 months…

    • says

      I am so terribly sorry for your losses. Thank you for sharing your story because you are definitely NOT alone and I’m sure it will help another mother who is silently reading while her heart is breaking. I’m so happy that you know God is working through you– he will give you your joy once he’s fulfilled his plans for you. Sending you love and hugs!!

  24. Stefanie says

    Thanks for sharing. In going to ask my doc today about misoprostol but I’m nervous. I work with postpartum mommies and have heard only harrowing experiences regarding this drug and L&D. I know that’s different than miscarriage, of course. Hoping for a second US to confirm what we saw last week: a baby who’s heart had stopped beating the day we had this ultrasound. It could’ve been within hours or even moments. That has been sticking to me and bothering me. The moment I saw there was no heartbeat, I heard this little voice tell me that they’d be here soon but not just yet. I imagine the baby that will come later is the one I’m meant to have and will be where this little soul belongs. This body wasn’t the right one, I guess. Anyway, I’m grateful to read your story and see similar sentiments as well. It’s comforting. ❤️

    • says

      I am so terribly sorry! If it helps bring you comfort– this post was written over 2 years ago and I did finally have my daughter. I knew she was coming– it just wasn’t her time yet. Sending you hugs!!

  25. Alicia says

    Wow we have so many parallels it’s cray! I was 9 weeks also an found out my baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks 3 days. I have a sneaking suspicion something was amiss since all of my nauseous just stopped one day. I’ve had two previous miscarriages but my last pregnancy was successful and great and I have a beautiful 17 month old son. We are also building a home and I’m happy I have that to keep my mind occupied and to look forward to. I’m day 4 of my “healing process”. I like that you called it that and I am going to refer to it as that from now on. I haven’t been terribly sad about the loss but I have to be honest, I’ve been pretty pissed off about it:( I haven’t wanted to share with anyone other than two friends I know would keep it private and say what I needed to eat and not dwell on it. Anyway, I found your blog tonight because I am suddenly bleeding A LOT! I thought I had passed the “product of conception” but maybe it wasn’t what I thought on that first day after taking the pills (vaginally). I am worried the bleeding is not normal. I just want this all to be over and behind me so I can feel better and look forward to trying again. Thank you for posting about your experience. I know it’s painful and private and it’s nice to know I’m not alone.

    • says

      I’m so sorry for your loss Alicia and I completely understand where you are at right now. I hope that you heal quickly and are able to try again soon– if it gives you hope– since writing about this experience I have had my daughter. After 4 pregnancies I have 2 beautiful children and finally feel like my family is complete. My thoughts are with you and you are definitely not alone in this!

  26. Stephenie says

    So glad I found this post! My 8 week ultrasound showed a yolk sac and gestational sac that measured around 6 weeks, and some erratic heart activity. We repeated a week later, hoping to see growth and a steady heart beat (indicated the dating was just off and I wasn’t as far along as I thought), but the yolk sac was gone, the gestational sac was irregular, and no heartbeat. It’s been a week since the 2nd ultrasound and no spotting or cramping at all, so I’m going to use the Misoprotol tomorrow. My MD ordered 800mg vaginally as a single dose, so my experience will be different than yours, but I’m going to read the links you posted to the other stories for more info. Thanks for adding them to your post! My OB/GYN says she has been told by her other patients that it takes about 6-8 hours for “everything to happen” with the dosing this way. Thanks, again!

    • says

      I am so sorry for your loss Stephenie. My thoughts are with you this weekend….a cozy blanket, lots of movies, and a heating pad for the cramping will help some. Sending you hugs and hopes of a speedy recovery!

    • Melissa McCaffrey says

      I also did my dosages vaginally. I was told by my doctor to not freak out when (likely inevitably) the pills fall out at some point. As long as they’re in there for a half hour or more, they’re supposedly doing the trick. Good luck and stay strong!

  27. Jamie says

    We found out yesterday that our baby’s heart stopped beating about a week ago after seeing it beating with fury at the end of 6 weeks (I was having cramps at 8 weeks so they brought me in for a checkup). It was beyond heartbreaking. We’ve been trying for 3 years – its so hard after all this time to believe this happened.

    I took the 4 pills about 2 hours ago and have yet to have cramping or bleeding. Hoping it kicks in soon and I can get this over with so we can start to work past this. Unfortunately it’s my husband’s birthday today, what a horrible way to spend it. Sending my thoughts to all the women affected by this horrible occurrence and wish you happy and healthy births in the near future!

    • says

      Oh no, I’m so sorry Jamie. My heart goes out to you and your husband! It sucks even more that it’s your husband’s birthday. I’m sending hugs your way and hope for a quick healing.

  28. Melissa McCaffrey says

    Thank you so much for this. This morning was my first prenatal appointment, what was supposed to be a joyous day. I was 8 weeks along, but the ultrasound showed the baby had stopped growing a week ago and had no heartbeat. I don’t think I’ve ever felt so shattered in my life. It’s my first pregnancy, and I’m heartbroken. My husband is too – when we got back to the car, I’ve never seen him cry like that before. I’m headed for pharmacy to pick up my prescription now, with the hopes of taking care of this over the weekend and starting the process of healing and getting back to normal. But I needed to read this today, so thank you for sharing your story.

    • says

      Oh Melissa, my heart goes out to you and your husband! I am so sorry for your loss. Don’t lose hope…my first and third pregnancies ended in miscarriages and now I have two amazing little ones. Just know that you’re not alone…we’re just taught not to talk about it. Hopefully your husband and you can just hang out and spend the weekend cuddling. Sending hugs and love your way for a speedy recovery!

    • Melissa McCaffrey says

      Just an update, for other women who are going through this. I took two rounds of the misoprostol, three doses per round, and went back for an ultrasound. The doctor said the gestational sac had passed, but the lining of my uterus was still really thick, and so they wanted me to do another couple of rounds. After two more rounds, and another ultrasound, there unfortunately wasn’t much change. I wasn’t terribly surprised by this, because after reading other women’s comments, I was expecting to see much more blood and tissue than I had been. My cramps were a little bad at times, so I took Motrin and used a heating pad, but I’ve had significant cramps every period since I was 13, so this was nothing new to me.
      My doctor said that sometimes the misoprostol just doesn’t work for some women. There isn’t necessarily a reason why. But the end result was that I had to go to the OR for a D&C on Tuesday. I was really nervous and anxious going in – the idea of having my uterus scraped out just didn’t appeal to me. And it was my first surgical experience, first time in a hospital, so I was just jittery not knowing what to expect. But we got to the hospital at 7:30 am, I was in the OR by 9:00 am, and back home by 11:00. They performed the procedure under sedation, so I wasn’t completely under – which I was happier about. I didn’t take anything for pain at all, and while I had some spotting and discharge on Tuesday and Wednesday, as expected, I put in just a pantiliner at 6:00 this morning, and it’s now 11:00 and I haven’t had to change it.
      So although I wanted the misoprostol to work, and to just go through this at home with my husband, after 2 weeks I was ready to close the door on this chapter. And the D&C worked great for me, even though it wasn’t my first choice.
      Sending love and strength to all of you ladies.

      • says

        Thank you so much for coming back and sharing your story Melissa. It will help so many women! I’m glad that the D&C worked out well for you and you are on your journey of healing. Hugs!!!!!

  29. Merisa says

    Thank you for your post.
    I am 32 years old. My husband and I tried to get pregnant for over a year. We had initiated fertility tx then found out we got pregnant on our own! (My first pregnancy ever!) At my ultrasound last Friday, I should have been 7w3d, but gestational age was a week behind and heartbeat was only 86bpm. After doing our research, we knew it was likely to not get better. We went back today and there was no heartbeat and it had not grown. I went with the misoprostol, with 600mg inserted vaginally and 200mg orally, all at around 1230pm. It’s been 6 hrs, and mild cramping, just waiting.
    Anyway, thank you for sharing. This helps me so much and all the other comments help too.
    I can’t wait to get this over with and try again! I am focusing on the silver lining that we are both healthy and can conceive on our own!

    • says

      Oh Merisa I am so terribly sorry! Just know that you’re not alone…so many women go through this but we’re just taught not to talk about it. I know you’re on an emotional roller coaster right now but I can say it gets better. Sending love and hugs your way!!

    • KB says

      To Melissa, and to the many women who posted their stories here, I wanted to say thank you. I stumbled on this post when I needed it in the last 48 hours and will share my experience with misoprostol too in case it helps someone. I find that what the doctors and even the kind nurses say is never enough information to soothe your fears or help you understand what you will actually experience.

      My pregnancy was in trouble from the start; they did not like what they saw at the 6 week ultrasound but the 7 week looked better and some hope returned. At 9 weeks it was clearly over; there was no reason to hope anymore as the pregnancy had clearly never progressed past 6 weeks. But they made me wait another torturous week before offering any support bringing this to an end and I’ll admit I was angry at the doctors at that point. Once you yourself have lost hope and grieved the loss – I find anyway that I really needed closure and after waiting a month, waiting another week, now without hope, was torture. At 10 weeks they agreed the pregnancy was clearly over but as my body had shown no signs yet of coming to grips with that, the options were misoprostol or a D&C. I’ve unfortunately also had to have a D&C before, because of similar circumstances but later in that pregnancy. I had a caring, skilled doctor for the D&C and no complications except some neck stiffness from my positioning under anesthesia. So I would have preferred the clinical certainty of a D&C, but this doctor would have made me wait yet *another* week. They presented misoprostol as the lowest-risk option (though D&C is also quite low risk) and most important to me after an anguished month of alternating hope and despair and mostly just waiting – it would be immediate.

      My husband arranged to take off Wednesday, the day of the 10-week appointment, and possibly Thursday as well, to be with me. On Wed they sent me home with misoprostol but advised me to take it at night. They said to expect I’d likely sleep through most of the night while the medicine kicked in, and awake to cramps and a fairly quick passage of everything in about a 4 hour period, and I should not be slow to take the pain meds if I needed them. So another day of waiting, but that made sense to me and at least I could see the end of the tunnel. I took 4 tablets vaginally at 10 p.m. Wed and went to bed, and largely, slept.

      5-7 a.m. Thur: I felt slightly uncomfortable but stayed in bed til 8.
      8 a.m Thur: light bleeding with mucus, relief that this seems to be underway. However the first discharge includes the remains of 2 tablets, which is very concerning and frustrating to me as I’d been so careful with the instructions they gave me and for the millionth time it feels absurd to me the things you have to try to figure out all by yourself at home. (The nurse later says not to worry and that most of the medicine was likely absorbed overnight anyway).
      Noon Thur on: Not even half a pad of the light blood with mucus. I am angry again and frustrated that the misoprostol I only chose because it offered immediate relief, does not seem to be doing anything except making me vaguely gassy and slighly crampy with the equivalent of light spotting all day. I’m also concerned because my husband and I have both taken 2 days off now for essentially nothing and I fear I’m going to have to navigate the worst of it the next day alone because he absolutely has to go back to work for at least a while. And/or, we’ll have to take off yet more time next week for the D&C I would have opted for in the first place if I’d known misoprostol was not the straightforward option it was presented to be. I refill the misoprostol (they gave me 1 dose only with 1 refill so we have to go back out and get that) and call the doctor’s office. The nurse tells me I may be within the normal range of response and even a little bleeding may mean it’s working but to take the second dose at 10 p.m. Thur (24 hours) if I’ve not reached full flow.
      10 p.m. Thur: bleeding has essentially stopped altogether; I take the second dose of 4 tablets, vaginally again.

      6:30 a.m. Fri: When I wake up I’m experiencing much more distinct cramps than before, and the first clots fall out. One contains the remains of the tablets again but it does seem this time as if something is underway.
      6:30-9:30 a.m. Fri: More clots, every 15 min or so. Cramps are toe-curling and painful to the point of inability to concentrate on anything but the cramps, but 2 tylenol with codeine help and I remind myself, thanks to the posts here, that the worst cramps may mean I’m reaching the end. At 9:30 a.m., the largest clot to date and feels qualitatively different. Unpleasant as it is I check to see if it contains the gray-white tissue the doctor’s office said to expect – it does. Because I came to grips with this pregnancy ending a week or more ago, and I’ve done lots of crying over the past month, I’m not sad today. I am just relieved that at last all the horrible waiting and uncertainty and dashed hopes are over. And I get to heal, and move on, and I hope, try again. I experienced no other bad symptoms with misoprostol. Some intestinal discomfort but not the nausea or diarrhea others reported, and I feel fortunate for that. I think the process is complete; I’ll find out Monday at a follow-up ultrasound. After 9:30 I feel immediately better. No cramps, some follow up bleeding now (more like a period). I’ll second what others say, the doctor’s office says it will be like a heavy period but that does not seem accurate to me, it is more like bleeding punctuated with clots that require a dash to the bathroom.

      I would second all the advice I’ve now read here: do take the pain meds if you need them, have someone with you if you can (my husband would have come right home if needed but I’m lucky that my experience this morning was not too bad and I certainly was grateful for him yesterday when I wanted to do bodily harm to the doctor’s office for suggesting this). I think there may be a pattern here where those who take the pills vaginally have less nausea and intestinal issues, so frustrating as it was to wonder if I’d truly gotten the right full dose both times, in the end it worked and I think that might be why my experience was fairly mild.

      As of yesterday, I would have said I’d never opt for misoprostol – I was miserable and believing it was not doing anything at all and I was just going to end up with a D&C anyway, but with extra time off work and pain beforehand. However the second dose worked for me very much like their textbook description at the doctor’s office, the pain was relatively mild and the process over quickly, and was much less disruptive than surgery under anesthesia. So I don’t know now. Since I began this process of trying to have a baby, so far with disappointment and heartbreak only, I have been very very afraid of miscarrying. Now I have experienced most of the things I have been most afraid of, including that, and it is heartening to know you will survive it. There’s some pride in that, and in my body too for doing its very best with a tough set of circumstances.

      What I do hope is that I and everyone who wrote here never have to make the choice again. I hope that this post might help someone else. And I hope that all of us who have posted here, are on our way to something much better is around the corner.

      • says

        I am so terribly sorry for your loss! Thank you for sharing your story…it really helps so many women…I get at least 10 emails a week from women thanking me for this post and all of the stories everyone has shared. You will get that beautiful bundle of joy one day….sending you lots of hugs!

  30. Dee says

    3 weeks ago I went into the doctor for dizziness and found out I was 6w5d pregnant, I got to see the heartbeat and the baby looked great. Last week I had my initial obgyn appointment. To our surprise our baby had no heartbeat and was behind a day in growth. The babies heart stopped the day before… I took the weekend to process everything. I didn’t believe it until today when I went back and still no heartbeat. I now started the misoprostol process and am having cramping and bleeding. Your post made me feel a lot better. Hopefully this passes and me and my husband can try again in 3 months. Although the first time was a huge surprise. I’ve never cried so much but I know god has bigger plans for me and my family. May god bless all of you! Remember there is nothing we could have done differently.

  31. says

    Thank you for your post. I had to take the medication at 3pm today after our first ultrasound revealed a gestational sac but no embryo. I am scared and heartbroken. Reading about your experience was comforting.

  32. Juli T says

    Thank you for sharing your experience, Monday June 1 I went in to see my OB for my 1st visit, everything was looking fine until she did a vaginal US, no heartbeat! My Dr. Then sent me across to the main U.S. Room with the ultrasonagrapher, still no heartbeat. I was stunned and overwhelmed, the Dr. Talked to me and answered what questions I could come up with and gave me 3 options, d&c, wait and see, or cytotec. I had another appt. this morning and I found your story a few hours before my appt. It helped me decide that given we had a weeklong vacation planned and I have a negative Rh factor and would need Rhogam shots to just go ahead with cytotec. I took it about 1pm and its 4:15pm the cramps have started but since I knew to request something to help with the pain, it’s not too bad and I’m relaxed. I’m rating with heat on my back. So thank you so much for sharing your story and linking to others so I knew more what to expect.

  33. Anonymous says

    Thank you for sharing your story. I got pregnant on the very first time we tried back in January 2015. I was exactly 5 weeks when I miscarried the first time. I went in for an ultrasound and my doctor told me that I had passed everything and I just needed to wait one cycle before we tried again. It took over 5 weeks for my period to come in March. So we tried again in April – BOOM! Pregnant again. I was a it amazed and how easily we conceived both times. Because it was so close to my last miscarriage and since I only had one period, it was hard to count days and determine ovulation, etc. Anyway, I was just over 5.5 weeks along when my husband and I had intercourse. Afterwards I noticed some brown spotting. I called the doctor and they told me I likely irritated my cervix and to not worry. Well, 3 days later the real bleeding started. I went in that day for an ultrasound and they saw the embryo and sac and everything looked fine except that I THOUGHT I should be measuring 6w 1d but the ultrasound had me at 5w1d. The doctor said they could not rule it a miscarriage because everything looked okay still. So i had progesterone and hCG taken. The hCG was fine but the progesterone was dangerously low. They gave me progesterone supplements and the next day had me get my hCG taken again. My levels dropped. At that time they ruled it a miscarriage. A week and a half went by and they had me go in to get my hCG taken again to see if the levels were dropping at the right rate. THEY WENT UP. Confused, they had me come in for another ultrasound. There they saw a deformed sac and no growth. Not wanting to have a D&C, they prescribed misoprostol. I went through the same situation every else has after taking the pills vaginally in the evening (crazy cramps over night followed by 6 hours of intense bleeding). That happened on a Thursday/Friday. The next Tuesday I had my hCG taken – only went down 400. Three days later I had my hCG taken again – only went down another 400. I had it taken yesterday but before the results can in, the doctor called and said that I could do another round of misoprostal (this time inserting 4 tablets one day and then another 4 tablets 48 hours after) in an effort to avoid the D&C because my levels were not dropping rapidly enough. Yesterdays blood draw had them go down by like 900 but I guess that still wasn’t a big enough drop. So here I am. I inserted the pills at around 11:45 PM last night. The last time, I think I took the pills around 11:30P and it took until around 10A the next day for the bleeding to start. So I am keeping my fingers crossed the bleeding is on the way and that I finally expel everything. While I am eager to try to get pregnant again – at this point I just really want this to be over with. 🙁

  34. Kristy says

    First off, I wanted to thank you so much for this post! This one (and a few others like it) really helped me through the past couple of days. When I was in pain, or wondering if it was working, or wondering–how long will this last?!?!–I spent hours reading other people’s experiences & it really does make you feel less alone!

    I wanted to leave my experience, as the timeline was a little different than what I expected and read about elsewhere. First off–my visit to the Dr.’s on a Friday morning: (I had been earlier, they saw a 6wk2day baby with a heart beat) going in for an ultrasound at 9week2days & no heart beat. The baby stopped growing at 7 weeks. I have to admit I was shocked–no symptoms, still felt pregnant, even the doc said the fact that there was a heartbeat the first time was a good sign. It was my first everything–pregnancy (not totally planned, first try), miscarriage, etc–so even though so many women have been through this, I felt VERY clueless.

    I chose the misoprostol option–I hate any kind of a surgery & I wasn’t having any symptoms, so I didn’t want to wait weeks for something to happen naturally. I had been sick all pregnancy & I was really ready to just feel like myself again.

    I inserted the medicine (4 pills) right after the Dr. appointment Friday at 3:30pm (along with a narcotic the dr. prescribed). About 4 hours later I had EXTREME cramps. I don’t usually get bad cramps with my period, so maybe I was being a baby–but I took another pain pill (would recommend taking 2 to begin with!!) & just took deep breaths. The heating pads were as helpful as the pain medication.

    The weird part: no blood came. The bad cramping lasted about an hour & then it calmed down–by this time, it was evening & went to bed without seeing any blood–worried that it didn’t work & I did NOT want to take a second dose.

    In the morning, there was some blood on the pad, but definitely not the kind I had been reading about. I stayed around the house all day & had light bleeding–still worried I would have to take the second dose.

    Around 6:00pm on Saturday, over 24 hours after I took the dose–I started cramping again & experienced my first clots passing (and/or tissue–I really couldn’t distinguish WHAT was coming out & really didn’t want to know the details). I was happy something was happening, but I wasn’t really mentally prepared for what it would feel like to pass it–but I told myself it was part of the healing process. At this point, every 15 minutes or so I would get a bad cramp or just feel the need to pass something. You do get used to this feeling of things falling out of you–it’s so weird at first & the doctor never mentioned it–she just said “it will be like a heavy period.” This continued for a few hours & then about

    10:00pm on Saturday I got the BAD cramps again. It was almost exactly the same as I went through 4 hours after taking the meds on Friday. This time, though around

    12:00am–I went to the bathroom again & felt the passing of something larger/longer than the rest. Again, I didn’t look in the toilet for details (too squeamish)–but I felt almost completely better after that.

    Woke up Sunday morning & so far–no more clotting, just bleeding. And really no more cramping. So I feel I passed the last of it at midnight.

    All day Sunday I’ve been feeling physically better than I have my whole pregnancy. I was able to do light housework, answer emails, etc.

    So–don’t worry too much if it doesn’t all hit you in the first 4 hours. I didn’t start passing anything until over 24 hours of taking the medicine. Also, I never had that much bleeding. I didn’t soak pads–it was really just the clots & a new pad every several hours (but they were never completely soaked).

    The only pain was the couple of hours where cramping got really bad–I felt no pain passing anything & the mild cramps weren’t very bothersome. Probably because I was taking painkillers, though!

    And I would highly recommend doing this over a 3 day weekend if you can–I’m taking tomorrow as a sick day, so 4 days to be able to stay at home in my comfort zone has been super helpful. I’ll go back to the doctor late next week to make sure everything worked.

  35. Ashli says

    My plans are to take the Cyotec tonight, I’ve been so sick from headaches and vomiting because my nerves have been through the roof. Thanks for sharing your story and other stories because it has helped calm my nerves extremely. This isn’t my first miscarriage but my first experience happened naturally, therefore I’ve felt so along and so bad this time around because noone I know has had a miscarriage let alone forced a miscarriage using the Cyotec. Something told me to see if I’m alone in this and your story was the first to pop up and I thank God for you because I didn’t know who I could call or turn to for some type of comfort my husband doesn’t completely understand, he’s just ready for this to be over to try again as well as I but my emotions and nerves were getting the best of me. In my last miscarriage 5years ago my Grandmother suggested minced garlic for a pain reducer which helped better than the Lortabs I was prescribed if that’s helpful to pass along to other women. Again thank you and I’m praying for you and other women in our situation that feels hopeless or anxious.

    • says

      I am so terribly sorry for your loss! You are definitely not alone….unfortunately there are so many women who are going through the same thing. I’m glad that you found my post and it’s helped you so much. Thanks for the tip about the minced garlic. You are in my thoughts this weekend!!

  36. Rachel says

    Thank you for sharing this. I took my first dose vaginally this morning at 8a.m. It’s been a little over 4 hours and nothing has happened other than an upset stomach. I was surprised to learn that your experience took the better part of 5 days. I’m hoping/praying that things progress a little faster for me as this whole process is both exhausting and heartbreaking. But either way, it’s helpful to know that there are a lot of other women out there that have been through exactly what I’m going through. Thank you again for putting this out there.

    • says

      I’m so terribly sorry for your loss! You are definitely not alone and I’m so happy that you found this post to help you through such a difficult time. HUGS to you!!!

  37. Danielle says

    Thank you for sharing your experience. I sit here crying and angry as I take my first dose of cytotec. Thank you for this again.

  38. Tia says

    So I’m sitting here at the pharmacy after leaving my follow up ultrasound. I should be 10 weeks pregnant, but my Peanut Munchkin stopped growing at 6 weeks. My heart is hurting but reading this has helped ease much of my anxiety and I just wanted to say Thank You.

  39. Kim says

    I had a miscarriage during my first pregnancy years ago. It was so heartbreaking! I have since then had 3 beautiful children, but I will never forget that first angel! During my miscarriage, I felt terribly alone. It is an ache that I don’t think anyone else can understand unless they have experienced it! The internet is a wonderful thing because now women can help each other with such a painful experience. Thank you for sharing! I’m praying for you.

  40. Kim says

    I wish I found this earlier; It’s my first pregnancy and miscarriage – on my 4th day since and it’s been a roller coaster ride of emotions, pain and bleeding. I believe everything happens in its own time and reading how you have embraced your experience, it is positively assisting me with my recovery. Thank you.

  41. Carol says

    Thanks so much for this account. I am going through my third miscarriage since September. I particularly loved your thought that the miscarriage is your little daughter, not yet ready to join you. I hope she is here now. I hope I will have a good story to tell in time. Thank you with all my heart x

    • says

      I am so terribly sorry for your loss! I’m glad this has helped you. And I am happy to report that my daughter joined our family just 3 months ago….for me this was just confirmation in my belief that she was just waiting for the right healthy body to be born in. Again I am so sorry…just know that you’re not alone!

  42. says

    Thank you so much for sharing. This is my second miscarriage in six months and its hard to understand “why” this happens so often to healthy women. The pills worked with the second dose for me last time but I am three hours in on my last dose and it’s not the same. It is very hard not to worry but your post is helping me have faith. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story. It brings me hope.

  43. Amy Kennedy says

    I am having my first miscarriage after having 2 completely normal, healthy pregnancies birthing beautiful girls. I am completely heartbroken. I am about to take Misoprostol now. My mom is coming into town to be here for me for the next few days. Reading this helped prepare me a bit for what’s in store. It also made me feel just a tiny bit better. Thank you

  44. Andrea says

    Wow, thank you so so much for sharing your story. I’m going through the same thing right now and I’m also worried about a D and C. It was very comforting to read what you went through – to know I’m not alone out there and it doesn’t seem as bad as I keep imagining. Thank you xoxo

    • says

      I am so terribly sorry for your loss! You are definitely not alone…so many women go through this but no one talks about it. Since I wrote this post I found out that just about every single one of my friends have had at least one miscarriage but were too afraid to talk about it. It’s such a tough thing to go through and I truly am sorry. Just know that you’ll heal and things will get better. ((HUGS))

  45. Ashlee says

    I am at this very moment, starting my Misoprostol and looking for what to expect from this. It is my first pregnancy and my first miscarriage. My boyfriend and I were elated to go in this morning for my 10 week check up and for him to see the heartbeat for the first time. Unfortunately, there was no heartbeat and my little baby stopped growing about a week ago. I am heartbroken, confused and anxious about what is to happen. When I read about passing the sac in your blog, it terrifies me a little bit. My doctor did tell me that it will look like tissue and I won’t be able to tell that it was a baby or anything. I am worried about my mental state but reading some stories is helping. I thank you for you posting this and I am grateful that I was able to find it.

    • says

      Oh no…I am so terribly sorry for your loss! And sorry I’m just now responding…we were out of town for a bit. Just know that you’re not alone…many women go through this and just don’t realize it’s so common because we don’t talk about it. And know that your body will heal and you can try again….you’ll be terrified throughout the whole pregnancy but make sure you enjoy it too. After 2 miscarriages I now have 2 beautiful children…I prefer to think they’re the same babies that I lost before but they were just being born in unhealthy bodies so they waited to come in a healthy body…if that makes sense. Hugs to you!!

  46. Paula Layton says

    Thanks for sharing….i’m beginning this process this afternoon and overwhelmed, scared and angry. But it sounds like the process shouldn’t be too horrendous, and if i take the narcotic and maybe something for anxiety it will be more bearable. Thank you for sharing your experience….it has helped me. Thanks. I’m already blessed with twin 4 year old girls, and this pregnancy was a shock and unexpected. I”m trying to focus on my gratitude for the blessings I already have that are right in front of me, and trying to understand that somewhere there is meaning in all of this. Thanks again.

    • says

      I’m so terribly sorry for your loss! And I’m glad you found my story comforting….just cuddle those little girls as much as they’ll let you the next few weeks….it’ll help you feel so much better. I was constantly cuddling my son to the point that he’d start saying “mom stop, no more cuddles, I want to play”. 🙂 It does get better. Again, I’m terribly sorry! ((HUGS))

  47. Abigail says

    Hello. I am currently working through my second miscarriage. My first was in August of last year. I already have one daughter. She was my first pregnancy and things couldn’t have gone more perfectly. No morning sickness, no symptoms except heartburn, no problems at all. Worked full time and hard right up to the end. Even my labor was “ridiculous” as my mother said. Water broke at my 38 week appointment. Got wheeled to a room. Hung out until my labor partners got there. Contractions started, got in the tub and she was in my arms in an hour. My daughters dad actually left me the day I told him I was pregnant (after three years and many talks about having babies) because I wouldn’t have an abortion. I actually met a great man while I was pregnant with my daughter by chance. We never worried about birth control because at first I was pregnant and he had had a vasectomy after his three children were born. Anyway, fast forward to August. My daughter is nine months old. Great man. Great relationship. I hadn’t felt well the past couple days. But, it was over ninety degrees and I figured I was just fatigued from activities and work etc. We were in bed, I felt a twinge of heartburn and shot out of bed. I couldn’t believe what I was thinking. No tests on hand, went back to bed. The next day I picked up a test just to ease my mind. He was snipped. POSITIVE. bought more tests. All positive. He immediately called his doctor. He had never gone in for the check up after however long. A swimmer got through. Not really excited, but there was no question that we were about to have a child together. Went to the doctor saw the heartbeat. At that moment, we grabbed each other’s hands and became excited. I went in to my primary care doctor for something else and told her the news about two weeks later. And she grabbed her Doppler. She couldn’t find anything. But, I know that’s not uncommon so early on especially without the higher tech ones. A little uneasy though I called my midwife and she said I could stop in whenever and have the nurse check. Stopped in. Nothing. I broke down crying. So she sent me to ultrasound right away. No heartbeat. I was paralyzed. I had just gotten so happy and excited. We both were devastated. That process was awful. I didn’t get any medication. It just happened. Huge clots. I was actually sitting on the floor in the shower when I passed the sac and I will never forget it. He came in by me and I remember telling him I wanted to pick it up because my baby was in there and though he was gone, he still shouldn’t go without feeling his mother hold him. I didn’t end up doing that but daddy ended up sitting in the shower and just letting me cry until the last drop of warm water was gone. We actually buried the sac in my grandmas garden with a plant and a little rock. So since one miracle swimmer made it through. We decided to continue to not be careful and if it happened again great. And if not. No big deal. His doctor thought it was a fluke. Well, here we are. Pretty much all the same build up except we were excited right away. Appointment. Heartbeat. Then last Friday my heartburn wasn’t there. I didn’t even notice. But we were leaving to go to the store and he threw me a pack of tums (which I carry everywhere while pregnant) and my eyes went wide and I just knew. He told me I was crazy. To relax. I was so worked up that felt like I was going to throw up. I insisted we just go hear the heartbeat at my midwife’s office. I cried on the way there. So when I walked in with no appointment and looking very upset. My midwife told me that she would just squeeze me into the ultrasound schedule. Then there he was. No heartbeat. He had stopped growing six days prior. I was 11+2 that day. I actually was perusing online to find information on how to know if you’ve completed a miscarriage. Because, I took the meds Saturday at 7am and I had a couple gumball sized clots but here I am. Laying in bed. Tuesday and I just have no idea if I should be worried. I was further along this time so figured there would be more to pass, and as crazy as it is, I’ve been praying that is at least be able to bury this baby with our other angel. I felt nothing come out. I can’t believe I would have missed it or not felt it come out while I was peeing or something. I’m driving myself crazy. I’m so glad I stumbled upon this. I was all teary eyed and shared it with my manfriend. His first wife had a miscarriage, a very late one after their first son was born so he is so incredibly understanding and keeps telling me I’m not crazy. Bless his heart. All of you women are incredible. Thank you. You’ve all helped me more than you’ll ever know. Sorry for rambling on. But even just the act of typing this out has made me feel so much more at ease. Thank you thank you thank you. God bless you all.

    • says

      I am so terribly sorry for your losses! It does help to write it out and share your story…I found it really helped me with the healing process. Hugs to you and your family…I know it’s such a tough thing to go through!

  48. Melissa says

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. You have no idea how helpful it was for me. I just happen to come across it in a google search. I’m getting ready to take the misoprostol tonight. It’s been sitting on my counter for two days and I just need to face reality. This is my second miscarriage in less than two years and we’re completely devastated, but remaining hopeful. We have a beautiful little 5-yo girl at home, lost twins last year and now a singleton this week. It’s heartbreaking but we’re preparing ourselves to step back into the fertility treatment world. I actually feel really good about that since that’s how we were blessed with our daughter. I had a D&C with the twins because we waited over two weeks and nothing happened. I figured I’d try the misoprostol this time because our daughter is having her tonsils removed next week and I can’t imagine us both having surgery in the same week. I need to do my best to be a 100% mommy for her next week and I think that’s what is really helping me have the courage to do this. Again, thank you for sharing your story and I am so happy to hear that you had your little girl. What wonderful news. Congratulations on being an awesome mom and amazing woman!

    • says

      I’m so sorry for your loss! It’s good that you can be there for your little girl…I totally understand not wanting to both be having surgery. The best advice I can give is to cuddle her LOTS! That’s what I did with my son after the last loss and it helped so much. HUGS!!

  49. Terra says

    I am 74, had four miscarriages and carried a live daughter and bits of another child for 9 1/2 months. Back in the 60s we didn’t have any support at all and never talked about these things. I died a little with each baby and so happy that I actually had two beautiful children that were fine. This is the first time I have felt like sharing this with anyone and my heart cries for your loss. How I wish we had things like this when I was young and could explain how I was feeling. I hope when I get to Heaven I’ll see those babies but I don’t know how the Lord works those things. I have/had gone to the beaches and screamed till I was tired or afraid someone would come around but I’ve never really had any peace with losing those babies. All for the good? I don’t know. I just know today when I let my mind go there it still hurts. My husband got up and went to work, my neighbors went their way, in-laws never said anything, etc. Today I can’t even talk to my children about it so I am so very glad that you are able to let people know how it hurts. We didn’t have medication that you had to take and I’m glad that my miscarriages were spontaneous. That would have been horrible to just wait!!! Again I am so sorry.

    • says

      Thanks so much for your sweet comment. Times sure have changed….it is tough to go through for any woman. Although, I’m happy to report that although this post was from over a year ago I was able to heal and just gave birth to my little girl last month…holding her in my arms has helped ease the pain from the previous miscarriage.

  50. says

    Just three days ago I went to my first ultrasound at what was supposed to be 11 weeks. Turns out, my baby stopped growing at 9 weeks. This is my second miscarriage. I took the misoprostol yesterday and today to help move things along, but there has been very little blood. I’m really worried that this pill won’t work for me. I’d rather pass this naturally, but I see a d & c in the near future. I’d rather get everything cleaned out fast so I can start healing and hopefully conceive again in the next few months. Fortunately, I have a sweet, active little boy who keeps me busy while my husband and I cope with this loss. I really feel better reading all of these stories. It gives me comfort in knowing I am definitely not alone.

  51. Danika says

    I’m just about to start on Misoprostol for the exact same miscarriage.. my first pregnancy. I was afraid of what to expect but after reading your experience I feel like I am ready. Thank you so much for sharing! You’ve helped me more than anyone can.

  52. Gloria says

    I’m so glad I found your blog. I’m in the same situation. I have my own little man, nolan who is two. I was 9 weeks 2 days and found out yesterday that the baby passed away two weeks ago. Still so sick (my body thinks we are still pregnant) and I need to take the medication. I was so scared. I’m glad I know what to expect now. I’m ready to begin my healing. Thank you so much for sharing.

  53. Liz Z says

    I want to say thank you for posting this. I’m not a regular reader of your blog but came across it today because I’m currently going through a miscarriage. Reading your experience has really helped me because this was my first pregnancy and none of my friends have gone through it. Thank you again for sharing your experience

  54. Anonymous says

    I’m 31 and this was my first pregnancy. I was very scared to take this drug vaginally but doc recommended it as a less invasive and more “natural” approach to miscarriage over the d and c, but I didn’t want to wait to pass it naturally, baby had already stopped growing at 8.5 weeks and it was my 12 week appointment. Took this drug (4 pills) vaginally at 12pm, by 3 pm I was bleeding, by 6 pm I was soaking a pad almost every 20 minutes. Doctor said the more blood and cramping the better so i tried not to worry. I drank LOTS of water throughout and ate a lot of food throughout because i worried about the blood loss. I passed very large clots. My first rush before all the blood started to really poor was like a waterfall of clear liquid, after that it was lots of blood and period large clots until 3 AM. At that point bleeding turned to a light period. The next day i went back to doctor and we did an ultrasound, all was clear per the doctor, success! However the next two days I kept bleeding lightly. The third day the bleeding got heavier again and i passed a more yellowish tissue like mass, I though this looked more like what I thought the sac was than the other stuff I passed the first night, but doctor said my uterus was clear. I am wondering if things get stuck in the middle and that’s why they don’t show up on the ultrasound??? I wonder if I’ll pass any other things including clots over the next few days. I have heard bleeding can last around a week after and sometimes until the menstrual cycle. Overall, pain was very manageable for me, very much like a period, maybe easier with only 600 mg Ibuprofen. The worst part is the blood and not knowing if you passed the right things. A clear ultrasound is probably the best sign you can have, but its seems you can still pass things after. I am glad I chose this less invasive route. You may not sleep the first night due to all the blood, there were a lot of bathroom trips. Also, I could not lay down to sleep, I slept upright, so blood did not run down up my back. set yourself up on a couch or something and put towels and garbage bags under you. I went through three pairs of pj’s and underwear that got soaking wet and I bled on several towels. Get a heating bad and eat and drink plenty, but get comfy and rent movies. Once the blood really was bad I had to stay in the bathroom for a while because otherwise I just kept having to come back and change pads. Also, the first symptoms I had after 20 minutes with the drugs were diarrhea and shivering.

    Good luck!

  55. Ashley says

    Thank you so very much for this. I found out today, my 11 week appointment, that our baby stopped growing at 6 weeks, 2 days. I’ve been through miscarriage before, but my hubs hasn’t. I fortunately, have 2 beautiful, healthy children from a previous relationship. But this was the hubs first. Before, everything happened naturally, but not this time. I am terrified about having a d&c, so I opted for the misoprostol. My dr prescribed me the vaginal dosage, and I’m terrified. Specially since he also prescribed me narco, a powerful pain killer with it. I’m going to start it in the morning, so after reading your story I am not as scared. I know that every pregnancy has a 25% chance of ending in miscarriage, but it still isn’t expected. We are heartbroken, but we will try again in a few months. Thank you again for sharing your story!

    • says

      I am so terribly sorry for your loss! I’m glad that you found comfort in my story. Just know that everything will be okay and you’re on the road to healing….it’s a process but one day this will just be a distant memory. HUGS!!

  56. Carrie says

    I want to first thank you for sharing your story. It really has helped me cope. My story: This was my first pregnancy. My husband and I got pregnant the first month we started trying. I started miscarrying on October 28. I was 10+2. I had an ultrasound at 8+4 and everything looked good and baby had a nice strong heartbeat. So to wake up bleeding heavily a couple of weeks after that moment was so disheartening. I went to the doctor that morning and since the sac had passed and I was still bleeding she opted to give me a week to see if I would complete the process on my own. Two more times in that week I bled heavily and passed a lot of clots for a couple of hours each time. I had my follow-up ultrasound on 11/6 and the doctor still saw some clots and blood in my uterus so she recommended me using the cytotec to try to pass the remaining. I had to work Friday and Saturday, so I inserted the cytotec Sunday morning around 8:30. I didn’t start hurting until around 2:30 in the afternoon and heavy bleeding followed with more clots. The pain lasted until about 6:00 the next morning. The bleeding (mostly like a period with clots intermittently throughout the day) continues. I’m still having such a hard time because I just want the the bleeding to be over, the whole experience to have an end. I don’t go back to the doctor until 11/18-which will be 3 weeks exactly when this whole nightmare started. If there is still tissue remaining I will still have to have a D&C. And, call it instinct but I feel that the D&C is still in my future. I’m just ready for this journey to have an endpoint…the drawn out agony is drowning me…

  57. mari says

    Thank you for sharing your story, I just miscarried a few days ago. I was almost 12 weeks when I started spotting, had an ultrasound that confirmed that baby stopped growing at 9 weeks, I was devastated because up to that point my pregnancy was going great. I was scheduled for a d&c last Friday but on Wednesday I developed horrible cramping and back pain and was rushed to er, when I was discharged from the hospital my doctor sent me home with pain meds and the citotec, I had bad cramping all night and passed a lot of clots. When I went for my ultrasound today it showed I passed everything but small tissue remained, so he told me to take a one time dose of citotec 600 mg tonight and that should help. I hope this horrible experience of losing a baby never happens again and I pray that god will help me conceive again and have a good pregnancy.

    • says

      I am so terribly sorry for your loss! It will get better…I promise. Just remember that there’s nothing you could have done to prevent this and one day you will have a happy healthy baby. We were able to conceive again about 6 months later and we’ll be welcoming our little bundle in less than 2 months. So it will happen….just don’t give up! Hugs!!!

  58. Bri says

    I am sitting hear a couple of hours after learning my baby stopped growing after 8 weeks. I have my pills and pain meds and I’m ready for tomorrow. Thank you so much for sharing your story. It is so comforting to know I’m not alone.

    • says

      I’m so sorry for your loss! Just relax and try not to think about it too much tomorrow….just remember- there’s nothing you could have done differently and this pain is to save you from a great deal more pain in the future. I had to keep reminding myself that the miscarriages happen because of a genetic disorder in the baby and that it’s better to have it happen now rather than watching my child suffer in a hospital 2-3 years from now. Curl up in the bed with your favorite movies and know that you’re not alone! Again, I’m so sorry!

    • Shelly says

      Bri, I am so very sorry that you are going through this. I just realized that you sent this a week ago- I hope you are doing ok. . I wasn’t ready for how exhausted I was when it was over so please take time for yourself and allow your body and heart to heal.
      Melissa is so right- this is a genetic problem not an issue with you or anything you could have controlled. Although that is difficult to really understand and accept, it is true.
      I wish you the very best and wish I could sent a hug through this post.
      you are in my thoughts.

  59. Katie says

    I recently went through my first miscarriage. When I got pregnant, I knew there was a possibility of that. But when it happened I was not prepared for the physical and emotional pain. I went in for my appointment at 9 weeks and 5 days. I was so excited to hear my baby’s heartbeat for the first time. The Doppler machine wasn’t picking up a heartbeat. I had an ultrasound right after, and sure enough, there was no heartbeat. I felt like I’d been punched. I all of a sudden felt like I couldn’t breathe. I was not expecting that news. I had no signs that something was wrong. I hadn’t had any spotting or bleeding. I had mild cramping, but nothing bad enough to worry. It was a huge shock and major disappointment. I chose to take misoprostol to pass the pregnancy. It was the hardest thing I’ve had to do. The clots that came out felt so large. I kept wondering if I’d see the baby and recognize it when it came out. The doctor didn’t really give me a heads up what to expect. When I passed the sac, I was a little surprised. He told me I wouldn’t recognize anything. It would just be large blood clots. The sac was very distinguishable. I really didn’t know what it was. I figured it was the placenta. It was over 2 inches long and had a thick skin-like coating. After I passed it, my cramping subsided a lot. The bleeding slowed down, and for about 24 hours I had no bleeding. Slowly the bleeding picked up again. It has been a week, and rather than getting lighter, my bleeding is heavier, over the last 2 days I’ve passed more tissue, which I found a little strange and worrisome. I’m worried all the tissue didn’t come out. I feel confused, empty, and alone.

    • says

      I am so terribly sorry for your loss! I know your emotions are all over the place right now….but it does get better…I promise! With my first miscarriage the bleeding did last for about a month and I kept passing clots but make sure you’re getting regular check ups from your doctor as well. They should perform another internal ultrasound within a month to make sure that all of the tissue has passed….unfortunately this can take a couple of weeks. You may also notice a dull pain in your uterus for awhile…I remember feeling like there was an empty hole where the baby was supposed to be…it was my uterus contracting back to it’s normal size. Just know that you are not alone and this will all pass. I’ve heard so many stories about women having a miscarriage and then getting pregnant again a few months later and having a completely healthy pregnancy…it’s actually happened to a majority of my friends and even with myself. Don’t be afraid to open up to people because so many will share similar stories and know what you’re going through. It wasn’t until I wrote this post that so many of my friends came to me with similar stories….I was shocked at how many of us suffered in silence when we could have leaned on each other for support…but we just didn’t know. Again, I am so sorry!

  60. Jess says

    I’m going through this same thing. I was at 9 weeks and 7 days. My doctor had me come in for an ultrasound and said the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks and 1 day. This is the scariest thing that has ever happened to me. I’m scheduled for a d&c Tuesday at 10 am. However I Am Pretty Sure I Am Pretty Sure The Fetus Is Coming Out naturally. This morning I woke up and a clot of dark red blood came out. I’m not 100% sure but I think it was the miscarriage. What should I do?

    • says

      I’m so sorry you’re going through this…it’s a very difficult time but you will heal and try again. Just relax and know that everything will work out. If your doctor has to do a d&c it will be okay…my best friend got pregnant with her son just 2 months after having a d&c…and he’s a healthy 10 year old now. I am terribly sorry for your loss!

      • Jess says

        Thank you, i appreciate that. I went to see the doctor on monday morning because i was having some pretty painful cramps along with the bleeding, the doctor told me that apparently i had started the process of cleaning everything out without the D&C. So he gave me the 4 pills. i havent been able to get those unfortunately because of my lack of insurance but hopefully that will be settled tomorrow. so wish me luck, hopefully everything will be cleared out by my next visit without the pills.

  61. says

    Thank you for posting this! I have a sister that just had her miscarriage last week and she warned me of the bleeding and how it was overwhelming etc., etc. I had been waiting for mine to start for nearly 3 weeks, finally I decided to take misoprostol and I have been cramping, but there has been very light bleeding and only a couple clots. I take my last dose in a couple of hours and was worried that it wasn’t working, but your experience has given me hope that my healing process is almost over.

    • says

      Oh my heart goes out to you during this sad time! I’m so sorry for your loss and your sister’s loss. It truly does help having someone else that understands what you’re going through but it’s so sad that both of you are going through the loss. I can tell you that the pain does go away and soon it will be a distant memory and things will turn out for the best. Again, I am so sorry!!

  62. Mommy of 4 says

    I am going through the same thing and It seems like no one understands how the whole ordeal affects you mentally and physically
    but each day it gets better.

  63. Shelly says

    I stumbled upon your post because I am in that same waiting period of hoping my body will take care of things itself. It does;t look like it will and I need to take the same meds starting tomorrow. I am nervous and am thankful for your post and timeline.
    I have been going through Ivf and was excited to have a viable pregnancy, but was told that it was 2 weeks behind. I have to say that they do prepare you well. One week there was a heartbeat at 8 weeks and then just like you my symptoms stopped. I have never spotted though. At 9 weeks, there was no heartbeat and now I am here.
    It helps so much to know that I am not alone and that I will heal. Thank you for the hope.

    • says

      I am so sorry for your loss! Just know that my thoughts are with you and your body will heal from this and be ready to start again. The friend that I mentioned in the post that was going through the same experience is actually pregnant again and things are looking good– next week was her original due date….so just know that life will get better and you’re not alone!

      • Shelly says

        Thank you so much! At this point, I can’t imagine being able to take the risk again, but I am sure that once I heal a little I may feel differently.

  64. says

    Thank you for posting this! I had my cytotec doses this morning and things have slowly started moving. Your timeline has given me a clear idea of what to expect. I have made peace with the situation, and also realize this is a “healing” process. Prayers for you and your family!

  65. Lisa says

    Dear Melissa,
    First of all my heart goes out to you! My Daughter has recently had her third miscarriage.She’s 32 years old and the last time she wept in my arms she was Nine. It’s very sad,But we remain hopeful because God does answer our prayers.

    All the best,

    • says

      I am so sorry for you and your daughter! It’s a tough time but everything will work out– we’re much stronger than we realize and one day it will all be a distant memory.

  66. says

    Wow – I believe the same way you do! I believe there is a plan and time for all of us. This just wasn’t your daughter’s (or son’s) time to be with you yet, for some reason we won’t or can’t understand. When I look back over my miscarriage at three months, I realize in hindsight that it just wasn’t time for Michael – he came six years later and is the joy of my life! Hang in there! He (or she) is just waiting for your arms!

    • says

      Thanks for your sweet words. Everything does happen for a reason and I believe that maybe having the heartache now is meant to keep me from going through something even more painful 5-6 years from now…we just never know.

  67. says

    I turned to blogging to help me cope with my miscarriage in October. You are right, nobody talks about it. I had a hard time coming to terms with the baby’s death and did not miscarry naturally. I never spotted. I just felt off so I went to my ob’s office and learned that the baby stopped growing a few days before. Since my husband is away, I opted for the D & C so my children wouldn’t have to witness my pain. We had told everyone. We had two relatively easy prior pregnancies and didn’t imagine that this would happen. I still have to tell well wishers that I miscarried almost daily. Thank you for sharing your story to help others feel less alone. Hugs.

    • says

      Thanks so much for sharing your story! I’m so sorry that you had to go through it while your husband was away…I don’t know what I would have done without my husband around to take care of our son. That just shows what a strong woman you are! I’m loving your blog stories!!

    • says

      Thanks so much! I try to find the best in every situation…hopefully my story will help others and I know that one day we will have another beautiful baby. 🙂

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